From death to life: How a death investigator became a life coach!
Get in Touch From death to life: How a death investigator became a life coach! Life has a way of leading us down unexpected paths, often revealing our true callings in the most unconventional of circumstances. For me, the journey towards becoming a life transformation coach was born from a place of self-discovery and a need for healing, and an unquenchable desire to help others find their own inner power and fulfillment. After being in medical practice for just over 20 yrs, I gave myself the permission to find and do something I am passionate about. Here’s my story to becoming a life transformation coach and how I can help. I often jokingly say that Forensic Pathology chose me. I vividly recall a moment during my community service year as a clinician when I found myself sitting on some steps, overwhelmed by depression, exhaustion, and burnout. This wasn’t exactly the healthiest foundation for any relationship, let alone one with a profession. My foray into life coaching was nothing short of a life-or-death situation, pun highly intended. I deal with death everyday as a pathologist, and perhaps in some way that, unlike when I started, is slowly ebbing my life away. All in all, I reached an existential crisis, questioning my identity and overall sense of fulfillment. At times, it felt as though I was on the brink of disintegrating into my atomic particles and disappearing into thin air. My story is rooted in my upbringing and early experiences. We affectionately nicknamed my mother the ‘minister of advice’ as she possessed an innate desire to see the best in people. I, too, had an inclination towards encouraging others from a young age, but back then, it took the form of being a non-judgmental listener and asking thought-provoking questions. However, even though I had a natural aptitude for helping others, I often struggled to feel seen or like I belonged, especially during my school years. I also felt this when classmates sought my assistance with math problems, a task I would impatiently help them with. But math wasn’t where my true passion lay’ it was in the intimate conversations I had with popular girls who confided in me about their life issues. Throughout my life, I had a deep desire to empower others, to make them realize the incredible potential they held within themselves. I often encountered individuals who felt disempowered, hindered by past traumas or negative conditioning. I would leave frustrated because no matter how hard I encouraged, I could not really speak to their inner man. This challenge struck a chord with me because I had faced similar struggles, stemming from childhood trauma. Much had been taken from me as a result, which I needed to reclaim. I also understood that I had to work on my healing first before I could attempt to help others. I had to put the oxygen mask on myself first. I embarked on my own journey of healing, first through therapy, and then through transformation coaching. When I began to work through the emotional baggage and rubble, I experienced a transformation – both physically and mentally. I felt lighter and looked lighter. The journey continues. As I explored life transformation coaching and learned techniques to connect with a person’s inner self and unlock their godly nature, I discovered a newfound sense of purpose. The fulfillment I experienced was beyond words. So, what exactly is the role of a life transformation coach (LTC)? An LTC serves as a bridge to fast-track the journey from your current undesired state or life problem to your desired outcome or solution. They not only motivate you to get there but they empower and equip you to get there. Here are 10 ways they can help: Clarifying and Crafting Goals: They can assist you in formulating and crafting your goals more effectively, giving you tools and strategizing with you about how to achieve them. Motivation and Accountability: They provide the motivation and accountability needed to take physical and mental actions toward your objectives. Identifying True Values: They help you differentiate between what you genuinely value and what you say you value, and align them to each other. Resolving Inner Conflicts: They guide you in quieting the internal conflicts and disagreements between your empowered and disempowered selves. These discords keep you stuck and limit you from achieving your desired outcomes. Emotional Mastery: LTCs assist you in handling and responding to negative emotions disproportionately triggered in various situations. You’re then able to respond and not react. This increases your emotional intelligence. Releasing Negative Emotions Associated with Trauma: You can learn to let go of those emotions that weigh you down and sap creative and healing energy. Changing Behaviors/Attitudes: Habits are difficult things to break, let alone on your own. LTCs can help reprogram your mind to expedite the process of changing behaviors and attitudes. Changing Limiting Beliefs: LTCs help you remove beliefs and patterns that hinder your success and replace them with empowering ones. Self-Image Transformation: They aid in transforming your self-image to one that empowers you and attracts what you desire. Boosting Self-Worth and Confidence: LTCs can help you assert your self-worth and enhance your self-confidence. LTCs draw from a range of disciplines, including Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Psychology, Psycho-cybernetics, Quantum Physics, Neuroscience, and Religion. These diverse concepts and techniques aim to renew and unlock the power of your mind, allowing you to embrace your original, empowered, and godly self. As echoed by our coaching services’ name, life transformation coaching is getting you aligned and Harmonized with the life you are called for, empowering you to tap into your original Resourced self, and Manifesting your life of purpose and fulfilment through your desired goals. TAKE HOME In my journey from a clinician to a forensic pathologist to a life transformation coach, I’ve come to realize that, as pertains to my calling of healing, my true fulfillment comes from helping others discover their inner strength and achieve mental prosperity. I encourage you to explore the power of life transformation coaching, and