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Imposter Syndrome – When There’s a Stranger in Your House

Dont hold yourself back with self doubt. Shot of a young woman feeling anxious at home.

Get in Touch Imposter Syndrome: When There’s a Stranger in your House. You can’t reach where your mind doesn’t know to reach I once heard it said over the radio about how this very talented songstress didn’t submit one of her popular songs for the said radio awards. Why? Because she felt it wasn’t all that good for that. Me too, I also said ‘hee bann’! Got me thinking about how God allows us to achieve such greatness, yet still think and act like we don’t deserve it and are not worthy of it. In my experience, I see this a lot in women and men who are successful, and not in con artists.😂 Ya, I’ve experienced them. My bro Chelopo is probably laughing kwaa kwaa right now.🤣🤣 Anyways, experts describe Imposter syndrome or phenomenon (IS) as ‘self-doubt of intellect, skills, or accomplishments among high-achieving individuals.’ A good place to start with IS discourse is to consider this question: Why is it that some people find it so hard and uncomfortable when they are being complimented? And I mean the discomfort is so real in the pit of your stomach, urging you to flee, fight, fall or fawn. Flee: You ignore or deflect the compliment. What I sometimes do when someone ignores my compliment is I repeat it, if they deflect again I remind them it’s a compliment. I honestly don’t know if this does any good in shifting someone’s mind, but I’m hoping it does because it did with me. And sometimes they just keep on deflecting and I let it be, realizing what’s at play. I kept on showering this dear friend with compliments after they shared with me how excellently their child did at school and he kept on deflecting. Fight: You counter it with a minimizing statement: I used to say, ‘this dress? Ah, I just bought it from Shein.’ Shibu, who asked you? Or you attack it with ‘you shouldn’t have, it wasn’t necessary, next time please don’t.’ All words I’ve used before. Coupl’a years ago, I had this friend, Petra, call me to order. She had given me a costly gift (not necessarily for an arm or a leg) at my birthday dinner, and I said ‘oh, you, shouldn’t have’. Cringe. But I’m glad she did, because after I slept on it, I called her first thing in the morning and I apologized, explaining to her why I did that. (At that time my understanding was I wasn’t used to getting gifts. I’d later realize that the truth was I didn’t think I was worthy of it). It wasn’t long ago that I realized how demeaning and disrespectful this is to the person who took the time to compliment me with words/gifts. And if you think about it, ultimately to God! Now, if we do this with such compliments, can you imagine what we do with big successes? Minimizing them and attacking them in our minds and consciously with words/actions. Telling that success ‘oh but you didn’t have to do this, next time don’t!’ Fall: The equivalent of this paralytic mode is that some people literally just stare at you and don’t say anything after you’ve given them a compliment. The inner conflict could be so overwhelming that the mind just learns to shut down. Fawn: You immediately compliment back, in essence saying, ‘but it is you, not me, that deserves it.’ Address your compliment first, and then complement back, if it’s genuine. Because deep down that’s not the truth, and the compliment is therefore a lie. Even if the compliment is genuine and truthful. Ya, because, you know, there are some who compliment you for the sake of small talk. I know because I do sometimes, and I hate small talk. So I figure I might as well compliment because in general you look good. So it’s not a lie oh. Imposter phenomenon (IS): That which is suffered by a person who on the outside is something but on the inside is not. What they are and what they think they are don’t match. What they achieve and what they think they can achieve don’t match. Conflict. Chaos. Disorder. Discord. You feel like a fraud. Is giving things don’t make sure, that’s what the kids of today would say! IS is all negative energy. It’ll urge you to sabotage your successes and attempts, because the mind just wants to recalibrate to it’s level of comfort/familiarity. To what it knows. You may ask how could you possibly have achieved success without feeling worthy. Err, well, you upskilled and upskilled yourself. Grace favored you. Etc. Remember when I talked about high achieving to overcompensate in the self-worth newsletter? Interestingly enough, they say IS is more common in health care graduates & academics. Go figure. With IS, you’ll have success, and verifiable evidence of it, but lack peace about it because of your mind’s internal conflicts. As mentioned in literature, you experience ‘pervasive feelings of self-doubt, anxiety, depression, and/or apprehension of being exposed as a fraud.’ The feelings are justifiable and have a role, and that’s preservation. I’ll tell you about how our minds operate soon. So then what do we do? 🏹Let’s internalize God’s Word on who He says we are, and what He says we have and can do. 🏹Let’s work on our sense of self-worth, value and self-esteem. You should walk into any room, and know that you know that that’s where you deserve to be. 🏹Let’s visit our dreams frequently so that we’re not strangers when we get there. The mind can’t tell between what’s real and what’s imagined. To it, that’s the reality. What is, is. Many of us black people come from humble backgrounds, and haven’t seen or experienced the kind of successes that we desire to achieve or have achieved. We’ve also been so disempowered by past political eras. And so we walk in imposter mode by default. It has proven difficult, over and over again, for a

Clarify Your Identity, Unleash Your Authentic Life

Smelling their fragrance has the power to stop time

Get in Touch Clarify Your Self-Identity, Unleash Your Authentic Life If you don’t know who you are, you show up to the world with a blank piece of paper, and anyone can write anything on it – Dr Jay Barnett There used to be this advert of a guy who walks up to a counter in an airport, has a bit of disagreement with the lady behind the counter, and starts shouting: DO YOU KNOW WHO I AM?😂😂 Silly right? Well, that’s what our minds scream in places and times of confusion when we haven’t sat down to clarify and define who we really are. YOUR TRUEST IDENTITY = YOUR POWER There came a time when I realized I wasn’t in control of my life. Not in control of where it was, and distressingly uncertain of where it was going. An existential crisis where I was questioning everything about me. Yes, there was much I had achieved but some of it felt like I was achieving for the sake of achieving, achieving to keep up with my society-given identity of a super-achiever. And then there were those areas I was good at failing at😀. I would never expect to be good at everything, but it all just felt so misaligned, so much so that I even felt like I was failing at the wrong things, that I should have been failing at something else instead. I’d been given so many labels throughout my life and, I’m certain, so have you. Some empowering (go-getter), some discouraging (stuck up), some pressurizing (high achiever). As you can see, some of these didn’t allow failure. I felt like I was conforming to whatever label was pasted on me, like my life was just happening to me and I was, for the most part, reacting and dealing with what it threw my way. And one tends to do a good job out of that eventually, ducking and jumping and tending to the bruises when a blow landed. Got to a point where I felt I could not soar, I got weary, I got faint. I get it, some people prefer to go through life not knowing where they’re going or working towards. They prefer to just be living it up like there’s no tomorrow, and that’s ok. Do you boo. Not for me though. I needed to take the reins back. I wanted to live a life true to who I was, my authentic self.  I wasn’t thinking as far out as life vision and future goals stuff at the time, but I knew I needed to take and feel in control of my life. The heralder of my identity definition & clarification was when I started reflecting on why someone labelled me ‘gullible’.😏 I’d been marinating in that for a while and wondering how on earth do I change that about me. And why God would make me that way if it was to my detriment. Until I came to the epiphany that I’m perfect the way God made me, and that there are no bad human traits. This made perfect sense to me since I believe/d what God created is good. There are just undesirable re-programmings and timings and contexts and labels for human traits. I no longer wanted to change the ‘gullible’ part of me. What I did instead was ask God for wisdom as to when I’d need to readily believe the best in someone, because that’s what gullible is, isn’t it? Told you, undesirable labels! I then got interested in reflecting about what else I thought or was told was a bad trait in me and disarm it. Uuh, I was always told I was hypersensitive. I realized it was necessary for me to be hypersensitive in certain contexts, e.g. to discern when somebody is silently suffering, but not in others. I also understood that some of the labels others gave me, came from a place of them witnessing consequences of previous hurts in me. These I resolved I could no longer accept as part of whatever was my identity anymore, they were hurtful to carry. Point in case, I’d subconsciously accepted the label of hot-tempered as part of my identity but it was something that was harmful and sabotaging to my success as a partner and as a mother. As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he. I knew that I desired to think and be different. Clarifying my identity This excavation of labels cascaded into ‘you have all these labels given to you and they’re part of your identity, but who are you really?’ ‘You want to run away from this harmful labels and their attached behaviours, but where do you run to?’🤔 This is how I began taking control of my life. I reasoned, if my life seemed just reactive and unintentional, then I needed it to be intentional. I reverse-engineered it. If I needed it to be intentional, what would I need to be intentionally doing? If I needed to be doing something intentional, then where would I need to be intentionally going? If I needed to be going somewhere then how would I know where I needed to be going? In other words, the things that I would be desiring to get to, how would I know them if I didn’t know myself? That meant going back to the drawing board to clarify and define my identity. It all started with ‘whose are you?’ and went all the way down to ‘what do you do.’ Because identity is a multi-layered concept. I suppose that’s why one of the most difficult questions to answer is ‘tell us, who are you?’ Oftentimes when we’re asked who we are we start with, or even just mention, what we do. But if our identity rode on that, what happens when I’m no longer a mother, or a pathologist, or a member of the worshipping team at church? I believe, at the end of the day, physical

Low Sense of Self-Worth Could be Keeping You Stuck

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Get in Touch How Low Sense of Self-Worth Could be Keeping You Stuck Many high achievers are chasing validation Many of us are achieving a lot in our careers, but struggling or getting stuck in other areas of our lives, and often relationships.  One thing’s for certain, in all your getting, your mind will not lead you where it don’t know to be… LOW SENSE OF SELF-WORTH: A MENTAL STRONGHOLD Part of my mandate as a life transformation coach is to help you release and pull down mental strongholds, anything that rises up against the knowledge of who God is and what He says about you. Strongholds include harmful thought patterns, inner conflicts/arguments and harmful beliefs. They keep us in bondage, in self-sabotaging cycles, oppressed and limited. They are internal, not external. Influenced by the external yes, but nobody is really forcing you to make the decisions you make, or act the way you act. For a stronghold to take root, our mental programs first get disempowered by life’s experiences, our own or our ancestors’ (check out epigenetics). One such disempowerment is in the area of self-worth. Self-worth means an internal knowing of being good enough, greatly useful and highly essential for existence (last part my own take on it). This feeds into how we value ourselves, and consequently how others will (externally) value us. Because your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. If you don’t value yourself, you’ll have a perception that they don’t value you even if they do, or they’ll really not value you because you don’t value yourself. Recalling my business school days, I like thinking about these 2 concepts this way: worth is the number (price) that they put on a product, and value is how useful a customer perceives it to be and what he is willing to pay for it. And they are not necessarily the same. The value of the wealth of knowledge and the ability to cause a transformation in a R200 book is in the tens of thousands. Some find a R20 000 stamp of great value. To me, it’s not, and I won’t even take it for free. We tend to live on this external validation, i.e. the value placed on us by others, because, well, we were never meant to be islands.  It can be a dangerous thing, chasing this validation. I know for a long time I did, in relationships and career, and I got burnt out. Rest in our own true worth is what we need to do. When we have a healthy sense of self-worth, there’s congruence between our sense of worth and value, and we are more likely to progress with less friction. However, when there’s an unhealthy sense of self-worth, low or high, the incongruence further fuels internal conflicts. The incongruence arises because YOU DO HAVE WORTH, but you don’t sense it accurately, so you are acting out of alignment with your true being. Low sense of self-worth is always unhealthy. Heightened sense of self-worth can be limiting and harmful, think narcissistic patterns. I’m careful to say SENSE of self-worth, because that’s exactly what it is, a perception and not necessarily the truth. The truth is you were created with very high worth, so much so that God Himself, in Christ, had to come and die to get you right. I ask you today: Do you know your worth? Do you know how valuable you are? Do you know you are worthy? Are you careful not to equate your worth with how much money you have, what accolades you collect, the beauty you possess? Because, what happens when these go away. In current culture, people talk about high value men or women, unfortunately largely referring to how much money they make. So I can understand why we could fall into such a trap. Again, your worth and worthiness is an internal thing. Do you know you are worthy? Simple question, and most likely a quick yes. Because many times we consciously know we are worthy, but not so subconsciously. As in, you’ll say you know you are, but be behaving or finding yourself in situations that scream the opposite! I’ve been a Christian my entire life, and intentionally been establishing an intimate relationship with God for the past 17 years. I knew what He said I’m worth: Far above rubies. (Fun fact, rubies are considered rare and more valuable than other gem-quality stones, including diamonds.) I knew what He said I’m worth: His Son’s body on the block (of wood, cross, in case I’m offending you), such a high price. I knew it, but I didn’t understand what that meant, and so I didn’t live it. I knew all that, I said I believed Him, but my actions and choices said otherwise. Until I started my healing journey, I’d never asserted my worthiness as an individual. Heck, I’d never ever told myself ‘I’m worthy.’ I was just going through life, making decisions, meaning well, but many times ending up with outcomes that surprised me🤔, until I wasn’t surprised anymore because they’d become unbreakable and harmful patterns. Little did I know that my outcomes were governed by how I saw and felt about myself internally, subconsciously: I had low sense of self-worth. My mind would not lead me where it didn’t know to go, it only knew oops, we’re not worthy to go there! I consider myself a high achiever and it dawned on me: many high achievers are chasing validation, overcompensating for the low sense of self-worth, and I was one such! Thank God, not anymore! So, how does low sense of self-worth manifest? LOW SELF-WORTH: SOME WARNING SIGNS 🔥Having a generally negative overall opinion of oneself 🔥Harsh self-criticism and judging oneself, focusing on mistakes 🔥Brushing off compliments or positive qualities (hmm, ya this one!) 🔥Avoiding challenges 🔥Becoming upset or distressed by any criticism or disapproval 🔥Bending over backwards to please others 🔥Being extremely shy or self-conscious 🔥Avoiding or withdrawing

Self-Love: How to walk it the 1 Corinthians 13 way

Love yourself concept. Photo of lovely smiling woman embraces herself, has high self esteem, closes

Get in Touch Self-Love: How to walk it the 1 Corinthians way Self-Love is not selfish, but the foundation of loving others We are to love others as we love ourselves. Meaning we first love ourselves, and in the way that we love ourselves, we then love others. Schools are divided on this self-first construct, but I’m not confused. Because this is how Scripture, my compass, puts it. They say it’s selfish to be about yourself, to focus on your ‘self’. I ask, but who and what does one give of themself if they haven’t filled that first? From which cup do they pour love out? You can’t give what you don’t have.  It’s one thing to love yourself just for the sake of loving yourself. And that’s when we have a problem. But the Bible puts it clearly: you love yourself so that you can love others. When you commit to taking the time to love yourself, it shows that you’re ready to commit to loving on others by how you’re now positioned, mentally and physically, to serve them in your different roles. For me, this makes self-love a luxurious necessity, and not a frivolity. Nothing wrong with indulging in what needs to be done. There are different kinds of love, beyond the scope of this discussion, but where we’re commanded to love others as we love ourselves, scripture refers to agapē love. This is the one we’re to love everybody with in addition to the other ones appropriate for the relationship. So, what is self-agapē? What does loving myself mean? I was wondering this myself. Well, only the famous scripture on agapē love can do this question justice. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8. The interesting thing is that the context of this passage is our gifts/callings and their use in the service of others, to say that if you use them excellently but do not have love, it’s all in vain. If the motivation behind your excellence is not love for others, it’s all for nothing. It’s not me, it’s the sweet Word. If the motivation behind your self-loving is ultimately not love for others, it’s in vain. You’ll be loving yourself but alienated from others. So, this is what I grab from 1 Cor 13, with the premise that self-love is ultimately self-less, loving yourself means: 💛Being patient and at peace with yourself 💛Being established in your own identity and purpose so that you won’t be jealous or envious of others 💛Building up a healthy sense of self-worth and self-esteem. When you have this, you won’t need to brag or be arrogant to others. 💛Managing your emotions (particularly anger because primitively, it’s meant to threaten away, and it still does) – unchecked emotions affect our actions, our actions affect our outcomes, our outcomes are our lives. 💛Recognizing that you’re not your mistakes; not counting your mistakes as disqualifiers; being forgiving of and compassionate to yourself. 💛Not accepting negative thoughts and beliefs about what you deserve or are worthy of, but recognizing what is truthfully and rightfully yours. Clarifying your identity greatly helps here. 💛You bear all things about yourself, accepting yourself, flaws and all. This amounts to radical self-acceptance! Now that’s something. 💛Believing in yourself and in the best of you; that God gave you what it takes to get the job done; that you matter and what you have to say matters; that nobody else can be you or do you – you have value. 💛Being hopeful of and about yourself, giving yourself the benefit of the doubt; always keeping yourself in the game even when it’s hard, and doing the work; not writing yourself off, because again, you have what it takes – God in you. 💛Never giving up on yourself; never letting ‘failure’ define you but taking it as necessary learning/feedback. TAKE HOME 1 Corinthians 13 also gently guides us in how we ought to love ourselves, so we can love and serve others. Love who and what you see when you look in the mirror, unconditionally. At its core, self-love is not self-seeking…It is the same love that you love yourself with, that you love others with. If you don’t want to love yourself it means you don’t want to love others. This is the circle of love: You love yourself to give love to others to receive love from others unto yourself. And those elements about you that you feel are not self-loving, compassionately and patiently work at turning them around to radically loving yourself. After all, love is a becoming and doing, and not just a feeling. For reflection guides on this and other self-discovery topics,  SUBSCRIBE to our newsletter and receive this weekly inbox coaching. Hi, I’m Dr Shibu, a Femininity Mindset Empowerment Coach to excellence & purpose minded queens. Welcome to my virtual home! Do stay a while. 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Purpose isn’t something to be chased…

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Get in Touch Purpose isn’t something to be chased… Your gifts, abilities and talents are all tied to your purpose. Align these to your roles and you are walking in purpose. People talk about walking in purpose; pursuing their purpose; finding their purpose; finding a purpose partner, and so forth. And other people be out here confused and disillusioned when they reflect about their own journeys! A doctor friend of mine once relayed to me, in a discouraged tone, that she’s in an existential crisis because she did not feel like she was walking in her purpose. I hear a lot of ‘I’m not sure what my purpose is’ in my coaching. I’m not going to lie, I used to wonder about my purpose myself. All the these led me to pursue the meaning of the word, and to decide that part of my assignment as a coach was to bring people to a place of alignment with their purpose. Hey, I’m Shibu, a Self-Mastery & Purpose Coach😁. I digress. My understanding of purpose derives from dictionaries and the Bible: Purpose is simply the reason/intention for which something was made/created. When the Creator considered creating humans (called ‘adams’ in Genesis, Hebrew translation), He said to do so in His image, so that they will subdue the earth and have dominion over everything else He created on it. There, that was the purpose of human creation! That was, IS, your purpose. I know it’s simplistic, it shouldn’t be complicated either. So how were two people supposed to subdue and dominate this vast earth? He charged them first to be ‘fruitful and multiply’. What would they be multiplying? His image, His likeness, His nature. In human race multiplying, they would automatically multiply His nature. What is this nature? The seed that God put in you. Your gifts, your talents. And, He puts different measures in each person. Your internal nature to be a creator, an encourager, a nurturer, a provider, a teacher, a healer, an advocate, a writer, etc., is the work assigned to you to multiply. If you read your Bible, aren’t these all attributes of God? When the first adam was made, his place of dominion (the earth to subdue) and a small part of the earth (garden of Eden) within which to do his work, were already in existence. He is created a male (an external work related attribute), and given a gardener role. Later he is a husband and a father. I hear people say ‘my purpose in life is to be a wife’. I ask: Was being a gardener the purpose or a role through which Adam could do the work of nurturing? Is a role the purpose? This is what we learn from the account of creation: We have a universal purpose as humankind. This remains constant. We are given different abilities to do the works tied to this purpose. I’m confident these are also constant because the Bible says a calling is irrevocable. These give us our positive passions, inclinations, and desires. We are then assigned places to do our work in, our roles or gardens of Eden if you will. These places are environments and the people divinely assigned to you to do your work in and through. They are the only ones on the entire earth who will hear/receive what you have to say/do for them! You are a goldmine to them! This is where your value is realized. And because this is where most confusion is experienced, I’ll mention this: In Christian circles, I understand a calling to be your work and assignment a role. Roles can be in relationships and careers. Notably, roles change. Yes, we use our roles to define our identities, but we should only do so as a last layer and not be attached to them as our core identities. If you are a husband, what happens when you lose your job? Do you stop your work of providing? Should you not continue providing security, comfort, support, etc. to your family? Also, and I hope this does not rattle any cages but, as a case in point with my doctor friend, I have to ask this: just because you were given the ability to heal, does it mean you have to be a doctor to do it? You can certainly heal through food! I mean that chocolate cake with the 70% dark chocolate ganache is some heavenly medicine! To end the people’s confusion, let’s stop ascribing to this idea that purpose is something to be chased. No, you already came with a purpose and works built in. The greatest issue, at the end of the day, is wisely aligning your roles to your God-given abilities/gifts/talents. Don’t be a wife when you know that the humility of submitting is not your skill. O o, did I rattle again? Same applies to men. Submitting is for both parties. Bible say submit to one another. I firmly believe this: You don’t develop a new talent or ability. You had it in you all along, covered, undiscovered. Nothing is new under the sun. However, you nurture talent, you build it up, you fan it up. TAKE HOME As long as there’s alignment with the abilities you are divinely given, you are walking in purpose and you will be fruitful! You won’t feel unfulfilled, frustrated and/or dissatisfied. If you were to park your Bentley in the garage and forget about it, yes it beautifies your garage, but car enthusiasts will have a field day with you: ‘These cars were made to be driven! You are actually damaging it if you don’t drive it!’ That is exactly why it is an existential crisis for a person, who is far more valuable than a Bentley, to not be walking in purpose, or be feeling like that. This epiphany hit me like a ton of bricks and liberated me from the chase: If God made me with a purpose in mind, then I’m valuable for just existing. And maybe even, my purpose is in merely

From death to life: How a death investigator became a life coach!

Get in Touch From death to life: How a death investigator became a life coach! Life has a way of leading us down unexpected paths, often revealing our true callings in the most unconventional of circumstances. For me, the journey towards becoming a life transformation coach was born from a place of self-discovery and a need for healing, and an unquenchable desire to help others find their own inner power and fulfillment. After being in medical practice for just over 20 yrs, I gave myself the permission to find and do something I am passionate about. Here’s my story to becoming a life transformation coach and how I can help. I often jokingly say that Forensic Pathology chose me. I vividly recall a moment during my community service year as a clinician when I found myself sitting on some steps, overwhelmed by depression, exhaustion, and burnout. This wasn’t exactly the healthiest foundation for any relationship, let alone one with a profession. My foray into life coaching was nothing short of a life-or-death situation, pun highly intended. I deal with death everyday as a pathologist, and perhaps in some way that, unlike when I started, is slowly ebbing my life away. All in all, I reached an existential crisis, questioning my identity and overall sense of fulfillment. At times, it felt as though I was on the brink of disintegrating into my atomic particles and disappearing into thin air. My story is rooted in my upbringing and early experiences. We affectionately nicknamed my mother the ‘minister of advice’ as she possessed an innate desire to see the best in people. I, too, had an inclination towards encouraging others from a young age, but back then, it took the form of being a non-judgmental listener and asking thought-provoking questions. However, even though I had a natural aptitude for helping others, I often struggled to feel seen or like I belonged, especially during my school years. I also felt this when classmates sought my assistance with math problems, a task I would impatiently help them with. But math wasn’t where my true passion lay’ it was in the intimate conversations I had with popular girls who confided in me about their life issues. Throughout my life, I had a deep desire to empower others, to make them realize the incredible potential they held within themselves. I often encountered individuals who felt disempowered, hindered by past traumas or negative conditioning. I would leave frustrated because no matter how hard I encouraged, I could not really speak to their inner man. This challenge struck a chord with me because I had faced similar struggles, stemming from childhood trauma. Much had been taken from me as a result, which I needed to reclaim. I also understood that I had to work on my healing first before I could attempt to help others. I had to put the oxygen mask on myself first. I embarked on my own journey of healing, first through therapy, and then through transformation coaching. When I began to work through the emotional baggage and rubble, I experienced a transformation – both physically and mentally. I felt lighter and looked lighter. The journey continues. As I explored life transformation coaching and learned techniques to connect with a person’s inner self and unlock their godly nature, I discovered a newfound sense of purpose. The fulfillment I experienced was beyond words. So, what exactly is the role of a life transformation coach (LTC)? An LTC serves as a bridge to fast-track the journey from your current undesired state or life problem to your desired outcome or solution. They not only motivate you to get there but they empower and equip you to get there. Here are 10 ways they can help: Clarifying and Crafting Goals: They can assist you in formulating and crafting your goals more effectively, giving you tools and strategizing with you about how to achieve them. Motivation and Accountability: They provide the motivation and accountability needed to take physical and mental actions toward your objectives. Identifying True Values: They help you differentiate between what you genuinely value and what you say you value, and align them to each other. Resolving Inner Conflicts: They guide you in quieting the internal conflicts and disagreements between your empowered and disempowered selves. These discords keep you stuck and limit you from achieving your desired outcomes. Emotional Mastery: LTCs assist you in handling and responding to negative emotions disproportionately triggered in various situations. You’re then able to respond and not react. This increases your emotional intelligence. Releasing Negative Emotions Associated with Trauma: You can learn to let go of those emotions that weigh you down and sap creative and healing energy. Changing Behaviors/Attitudes: Habits are difficult things to break, let alone on your own. LTCs can help reprogram your mind to expedite the process of changing behaviors and attitudes. Changing Limiting Beliefs: LTCs help you remove beliefs and patterns that hinder your success and replace them with empowering ones. Self-Image Transformation: They aid in transforming your self-image to one that empowers you and attracts what you desire. Boosting Self-Worth and Confidence: LTCs can help you assert your self-worth and enhance your self-confidence. LTCs draw from a range of disciplines, including Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Psychology, Psycho-cybernetics, Quantum Physics, Neuroscience, and Religion. These diverse concepts and techniques aim to renew and unlock the power of your mind, allowing you to embrace your original, empowered, and godly self. As echoed by our coaching services’ name, life transformation coaching is getting you aligned and Harmonized with the life you are called for, empowering you to tap into your original Resourced self, and Manifesting your life of purpose and fulfilment through your desired goals. TAKE HOME In my journey from a clinician to a forensic pathologist to a life transformation coach, I’ve come to realize that, as pertains to my calling of healing, my true fulfillment comes from helping others discover their inner strength and achieve mental prosperity. I encourage you to explore the power of life transformation coaching, and